In the past, I have had all wonderful experiences in quilting bees I have participated in. Until now.
I have heard of this “seedy underbelly” of the quilting world, and fortunately primarily been able to avoid it. Bee after bee, you have to consider when you are signing up that you may be making a block or two that you are not particularly partial to or makes you step out of your comfort zone.
I have arrived at both destinations. I have made blocks I personally highly dislike and would never make myself and I have made blocks that have scared me to death (and even required help with). You must remember however, that these blocks are not for you. Someone may hate your block as much as you hated theirs.
I guess it comes down to one’s who will publicly announce that they hate your block and don’t want to make it and one’s who do the right thing and suck it up and make the damn (sorry) block!
Of course you are not going to love everything everyone is doing and there are multiple definitions for “modern,” “traditional,” “wonky,” etc. Unfortunately I ultimately decided to resign from a bee I just started in last month. When the snarkiness starts in the beginning, it can only go down hill from there and I am NOT willing to put up with it! It not only hurts people’s feelings, but it leaves a bad taste in everyone elses mouth in regards to you.
Are my feelings too harsh?